Why Do We Sometimes Say the Opposite of What We Mean?

Sometimes, we say the opposite of what we mean because our brains are confused or overwhelmed. Imagine you're very tired and someone asks you a question. Instead of saying you're tired, your brain says something like 'I'm fine!' just to hide how exhausted you really feel.

Why It Happens

When people get nervous or excited, their brain can make mistakes in processing what they want to say. This is called paralanguage, like when you say one thing but your tone of voice shows the opposite.

How We Can Fix It

Sometimes, if we take a deep breath before speaking, we can remember what we really mean and say it properly.

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Examples

  1. You're really angry, but you say 'I’m fine' because you don't want to fight.
  2. Your friend says 'I love it!' when the gift was actually terrible.
  3. You’re exhausted at school, but your teacher asks how you are and you say, 'I'm great!'

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