Why do they avoid conversations that make them feel vulnerable?

It’s like when you’re playing hide-and-seek and don’t want to be found, they don’t want to be seen in a weaker light.

Imagine you have a favorite toy, say a red ball that bounces really high. You love showing it off because it makes you feel strong and happy. But sometimes, when you're playing with friends, you might drop the ball or not bounce as well as you wanted to, and that feels vulnerable. It’s like your super cool toy isn’t working as good as usual.

That’s what happens in conversations. When people talk about things that feel hard, scary, or uncertain, like when they don’t know the answer, it's like showing off a toy that might not bounce as high as expected. That can make them feel weaker or even embarrassed.

Sometimes, people avoid these kinds of conversations because they want to stay in the strongest place, just like you’d rather be hiding than being found too quickly. They don’t want to show their toy when it’s not bouncing its best. It's a way to keep feeling safe and powerful in the game of talking. It’s like when you’re playing hide-and-seek and don’t want to be found, they don’t want to be seen in a weaker light.

Imagine you have a favorite toy, say a red ball that bounces really high. You love showing it off because it makes you feel strong and happy. But sometimes, when you're playing with friends, you might drop the ball or not bounce as well as you wanted to, and that feels vulnerable. It’s like your super cool toy isn’t working as good as usual.

That’s what happens in conversations. When people talk about things that feel hard, scary, or uncertain, like when they don’t know the answer, it's like showing off a toy that might not bounce as high as expected. That can make them feel weaker or even embarrassed.