Why Do People Say 'I Love You' When They're Angry?

Sometimes, when people are angry, they say 'I love you' because it helps them feel closer to the person they're yelling at. It’s like a hug in words, even if things are going badly, saying 'I love you' makes it easier for both of them to calm down later. Think about it like this: if your best friend is mad at you, would you be more or less likely to want to fix the problem if they said, 'I love you'? That’s what happens when people say 'I love you' even when they're angry.

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  1. Your mom yells at you for breaking your phone, but she says 'I love you' after the argument.
  2. Your partner shouts at you during a fight, then says 'I still love you.'
  3. You get angry with your best friend, and they say, 'I love you,' even though you just yelled at them.

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