How Does Trauma, shame, and being enough | Patti Ashley | TEDxCU Work?

Imagine your brain is like a toy box, when you feel trauma or shame, it's like someone throws all your favorite toys into a messy pile and tells you they're not good enough.

Patti Ashley talks about how being enough helps us clean up that mess. When we believe in ourselves, it’s like having a special tool, maybe a big, strong broom, that lets us pick up the pieces and put everything back in order.

Think of trauma as getting bumped really hard on the playground. It makes you feel small and shaky inside, even if no one is hurting you. You might hide your feelings like a shy turtle pulling into its shell.

Now, shame feels like someone says, "You're not good enough," right in front of everyone. It's like your favorite toy breaks, and now it’s covered in glitter, which makes you feel even more embarrassed.

But when we learn that we are enough, it's like finding a special key to the toy box again. We can put everything back where it belongs and play happily ever after. Imagine your brain is like a toy box, when you feel trauma or shame, it's like someone throws all your favorite toys into a messy pile and tells you they're not good enough.

Patti Ashley talks about how being enough helps us clean up that mess. When we believe in ourselves, it’s like having a special tool, maybe a big, strong broom, that lets us pick up the pieces and put everything back in order.