How Does The Dangers Of Being Too Nice | Dr. Gabor Maté Work?

Being too nice can actually make you feel worse, just like when you try to share all your toys but no one shares back.

Imagine you have a big pile of candies, and every time someone asks for one, you give them one, even if it means you don’t get to eat yours. That’s what happens when you’re too nice: you keep giving and giving, but you never take care of yourself. Soon, your candy pile gets smaller and smaller, and you feel sad or tired because you didn’t get to enjoy the candies you had.

What Happens When You're Too Nice

When someone is too nice, they might say "yes" all the time, even when they really want to say "no." It's like always letting your friend take the last piece of cake, even though you were hungry too. Over time, this can make them feel overwhelmed or upset inside.

Why Being Too Nice Can Be a Problem

Sometimes being too nice means not standing up for yourself when you need to, just like if you never told someone they bumped into you because you didn’t want to make a scene. But if no one ever stands up for you, it might feel lonely or unfair.

So, being nice is good, but being too nice can be tricky, kind of like eating all the cookies and then getting hungry later!

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Examples

  1. A child always says 'yes' to everything, even when they're tired or upset.
  2. An adult constantly agrees with others to avoid conflict, even if it's not what they really think.
  3. A person lets others walk all over them because they don't want to make waves.

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