Setting non-negotiable self-boundaries is like having special rules that protect you from getting hurt, just like your favorite toy has rules that keep it from breaking.
Imagine you're playing with a friend, and they take your blocks without asking. That feels unfair. If you have a rule that says “I won’t let anyone take my blocks without asking,” then you’re using a non-negotiable self-boundary to stay happy and safe.
What Are These Special Rules?
- You say “no” when you feel overwhelmed. Like when your friend wants to play for hours, but you need time to rest, that’s okay.
- You don’t let others treat you badly. If someone makes fun of you, it’s like they’re throwing rocks at you, and you have the power to say “stop.”
- You take care of yourself first. Like when you eat your favorite snack before sharing with your friend, that helps you stay strong.
- You don’t let others decide how you feel. If someone says you’re not good enough, it’s like they took away your confidence, but you can get it back.
- You walk away if things get too bad. Like when the game gets too loud and you go to a quieter place.
These rules help you stay happy and safe in any friendship!
Examples
- A child says no to playing with a friend who bullies them.
- An adult refuses to take on extra work when already overwhelmed.
- Someone walks away from a conversation that makes them feel disrespected.
Ask a question
See also
- How Does 10 Difficult Skills that Pay Off Forever Work?
- How do you define yourself? | Lizzie Velasquez | TEDxAustinWomen?
- How Does Being Kinder to Yourself Work?
- How Does Discover Your Core Values Work?
- How Does Change Your Life – One Tiny Step at a Time Work?